Help her during pregnancy

23 July 2018 - 2-3 minute read

Congratulations, you're having a baby. If you thought the day you found out you're expecting was unforgettable, just wait for the years that are about to follow. We don't mean this in an ominous way. These are going to be some of the best times of your life together as you prepare to introduce and raise a little life. They're also going to be tough. Really tough. But don't worry, we're here to help. Support and understanding are the biggest things you can offer a new mum, so here are our top five things that will help you, help her.

1. Don't judge her and don't complain

It shouldn't come as a big surprise, but she's going to change. All of her favourite clothes aren't going to fit her pretty soon, so compliment the new outfits she'll be wearing. She might not be feeling as loving as usual, it's probably because that's what got her into this situation. It's not you and it's certainly not worth complaining about. She's bringing your new favourite thing into the world and right now it's demanding a lot from her, so she might be a little bit more demanding. You'll get your chance to experience it, just wait until bubba is born.

2. Be there

'Where are you?' is a question you should try to avoid hearing at all costs. We've got the easiest solution to this. Be there. Be wherever she is and wherever she needs you. If it's a roomful of woman practising breathing exercises, or positions on how best to give birth to a 10-pound baby, then there's no place you'd rather be. Right? You also couldn't think of anything better than making sure she's on time to all her appointments, that she's tucked in when she's fallen asleep on the couch, and trying your best (and probably failing) to make her laugh after she starts crying and can't explain why.

3. Be kind

Spoil her and let her know she's doing an incredible job. You don't know if she's doing a good job and neither does she. But she's doing her best and that's amazing. Offer her a cup of tea with a complimentary foot rub - it's the least you could do after she's spent all day carrying around your little one. Run her a warm bath, (hot isn't good for bubba) with Epsom Salt, one of the best and safest ways to ease pregnancy aches and pains. Run to the dairy and pick up whatever bizarre request she has. Run wherever she wants you to. Because you love her. Let her know that, shout it from the rooftops. But not really, she's tired and needs her rest.

4. Make the most of being together

Enjoy spending time with each other. Take a stroll past your dream home, in your dream neighbourhood. Go to a café and spend the morning reading a newspaper or scrolling your newsfeed in comfortable silence. That's not going to happen again for the next 20 years. Catch a movie and make it R-16, your life is going to become pretty G-rated.

5. Keep her well-fed

This is probably the one time she'll match your appetite. Celebrate this and cook for her any chance you get. Babies also run by their own clock, dinnertime means nothing to them, so if she's after a cheese toastie at 3am, then get grilling. Keep in mind that in the first month after birth her iron levels will drop, so lots of green vegetables and red meat are ideal.

You just want what's best for her, and so do we. Just before they arrive and the months following, her entire world will be about baby. She'll be concerned when baby cries. Or doesn't cry. Whatever you can think of, she will have worried about. At Southern Cross, we know how important peace of mind is and your wellbeing is our priority. So if anything should happen, you'll have one less thing to lose sleep over. Find out more about how Southern Cross helps families.